Self care is everywhere these days. Some people wonder why this modern society feels the need to ‘self care’ and exactly what it is? To some it seems like selfishness, egoism or an excuse to indulge in a bath. After all, less than 100 years ago children worked like adults from young ages. Families had to be caretakers to the elderly and ill until the mid 1800’s and running water wasn’t in the White House until the 1850’s. Life has always been difficult and until recently we haven’t had the option of soaking in a bath without effort, treating ourselves to a facial with out friends or making time for a yoga class.
Self care can mean different things to different people. To me, as a holistically oriented wellness coach, it includes eating correctly, getting physical exercise and learning to handle stress effectively. To me, as a woman with a family and aging mother, it includes getting some alone time and practicing gratefulness when what I really want to do is hide under my covers for a day. To me as an American struggling to keep the bills paid, balance the needs of my friends and family with my own, continually take classes in my specialties to progress my career not to mention get the laundry washed and put away within 72 hours, it means lighting a scented candle and snuggling with my love. But those are just a few examples of what self care might be.
Self care is a term that allows us to remind ourselves that our methods of dealing with the world should be caring for ourselves, not just comforting ourselves by reaching for a cocktail or a piece of chocolate cake. It can involve reminding yourself with words that you are doing your best. It can be learning not to over-extend yourself with commitments. It can be signing up for a personal trainer or a yoga class. Sometimes, it’s that glass of wine or dessert with a friend. What is always should be is a way of rejuvenating your body, mind and spirit to be ready to tackle the hardships and celebrate the successes.
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